Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Using Children as Pawns

All too often I see parents using their children as pawns for various reasons. For example, if you want to keep having a relationship with my child you have to do what I say, or sticking a child in the middle of a situation to sway the child one way or another. No matter the reason, when children are used as pawns it down right pisses me off!

Children are innocent and have no idea what's really going on. The don't understand how they are being used for their parent's own selfish needs. Eventually, children grow up, and when that happens they will realize what has been going on. In the end, this will result in one of two possibilities: either they will be forever hurt, feel resentment, and betrayal due to the parent's actions, or they will acquire this behavior to further hurt their children in the future because we all know children are sponges and pick up the behaviors of their parents.

No matter what the outcome is, it's wrong and completely selfish and cruel to place innocent children into situtations like this. Sure, the offending parent may feel good because "they won" but in the end they are the ones to lose as they will suffer from the damaged relationship they've created with their child.

There is now way to justify using children as pawns. Plain and simple-- it's heartless and cruel. No matter how much you claim to love your child, if you're using them to gain the upperhand in a situation, that's not love at all. You don't treat those you love that way, and you certainly don't treat your children that way.

When you agree to parent a child, that means putting your own selfish wants and needs aside to better the life your child will have. If you are using your child as a pawn for your own selfish gain, stop!!! It's not right to damage our future generation due to a parent's inability to put their child first.

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