Tuesday, October 7, 2014
My Kids Aren't Spoiled...They are Privileged
What does spoiled mean exactly? When something has gone bad, when something has rotted. My kids are the furthest thing from rotten. Yes, I know all parents say their children are the best kids on earth, but mine are. They aren't rotten at all. They are well rounded, well behaved, empathetic, caring, and intelligent children. My children may have more than they need, but that's because they are privileged.
We are lucky enough to be able to provide my children with more than other families, so we do it. Yes, they have more toys than they need and more clothes than they need, but that's because we are financially able to do so. Yes, they participate in lots of activities, but again, it's because we are able to do so. And, no, we don't but them off with gifts. We spend a great deal of quality time with them.
They don't get whatever they want and we don't lavish them in money or gifts. However, I can see from an outsider's stand point that they might appear to be spoiled. Call my kids spoiled if you want, or privileged as I do, but I have no problem with it.
You want your children to have a better life than you had, even though there was nothing wrong with the way I grew up. And, I hope they are able to provide their children with a better life than the life we gave them, even though they are better off than most families. It's something all parents want for their children, right?
My children may have much more than the "necessities" in life, but they deserve it and they aren't putting us in the poor house in the process. The understand what it's like to work for money, how to save money, and the importance of a hard earned dollar. Things just aren't handed to them.
So, whether you agree with me or not, it doesn't matter. My children aren't spoiled or rotten, they are privileged. And, I think if you're calling a child spoiled, you may want to reconsider your choice of words because in my eyes, no child is "spoiled."
Do you agree or disagree about calling a child "spoiled?" Are your children spoiled or privileged?