Hi. I am a mother to seven. My children are 19 years old down to 2 years old. I find that my biggest obstacle is isolation. It has slowly happened over the years with my big family. I used to be different and enjoy friends and other outings when I had less children. I would like to meet other big families over Facebook...like a group. It would really help to not feel so alone and mostly overwhelmed with my plate so full. I want to enjoy my family and not feel so tasked out.
I can totally relate to you! Although you have me beat in children by 3, I have struggled with this. I used to be the type of person who couldn't sit at home and was always open to getting out of the house and doing things with family and friends. But, as our family grew, it just became too much of a chore.
A lot of smaller families simply don't understand what it takes to get everyone ready and out the door. Not to mention, not losing anyone and taking care of a large family when you're out and about. There is so much laundry and chores to be done, and it's often easier just to stay at home.
Connecting with other large families who understand what you're going through it very important. It's a completely different world when you're raising a lot of children when compared to one or two, and you need people who can relate to you.
I have been able to find a few other large families in my area through Facebook groups specifically for moms. Loving Big Families does have a Facebook group, although it's really small right now, we hope it will grow to bring more large families together. You can also search for area specific parenting groups to try to meet new large families.
Our Facebook page also has many other mothers to large families on it. Maybe you can meet some people there. I have also found that joining playdate groups on Facebook allows your to connect with other large families, too.
It's really nice finding large families to hang out with because they understand the chaos, and don't mind the large energy and often dirty house that comes with many children.
Although I couldn't be more of a help directly connecting you with families, I hope you feel not as alone. I know there are many other mamas to large families who feel the same way, myself included.
Do you have any advice for this mama? Do you feel the same way? How have you learned to connect with other large families?
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