Wednesday, June 25, 2014

The Balancing Act: Raising a big family

Balancing a big family is tough. There's always something that needs to be done and someone always needs something. Working a full time job from home doesn't help any either, but I guess I do get to spend more time with my children this way than if I worked outside of the home, even if it isn't as much time as I would like. In my opinion, the most difficult part of raising a big family is spending enough one on one time with each kid. Even 30 minutes a day with each kid results in 2 hours, which most days, there just isn't 2 extra hours to do this. I usually end up feeling really guilty about not being able to spend one on one time with each kid for a long period of time. But, it is possible to squeeze in little moments here and there to get each kid alone for a little mommy time.

It's just not possible to spend as much time as I would like with each child, as there just aren't enough hours in the day, so I have to sneak little moments when I can to just hang with a child. Balancing a big family is really tough, but it's so important to find a spare moment here and there to just sit and talk with each of your children. I often find my self sneaking into their beds at night just before they fall asleep to snuggle and talk with them, or to go sit out on the porch to watch the storm move in. Each of these hidden little moments may not be more than 10 or 15 minutes, but these little moments matter so much to the children.

You have to see an opportunity to spend one on one time with your children as often as you can, even if it is just a few minutes throughout the day. When you have a big family, it's so easy for a child to feel left out as the children scramble for that one on one mommy time.

Never pass up an opportunity to connect with your children individually, even if it seems like there just isn't the time.

How do you balance a big family? How do you find the time to spend one on one mommy moments with each child?

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