Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Talking to Your Kids Kids about the Birds and the Bees

When it comes to talking to your kids about the birds and the bees, everyone has their own opinion. Most parenting organizations recommend you start young, around the age of 6 or 7. Personally, I feel this is just way too young.

I understand that children need to be prepared and educated, but at this age they should be focused on puppies and riding bikes, not baby making. I also understand in today's society, children are learning more and more about sex at an earlier age and you want to have that discussion at home before they begin hearing about it other places. However, by discussing with children too early and giving them the nitty gritty details, you kind of take away a piece of their innocence. Honestly, I feel it further encourages their curiosity.

I have a very open relationship with my children. They can come to me and ask me anything, and I will explain to them the best I can in age appropriate terms. My older children ( two 8 year olds and a 7 year old) have asked me many questions due to what they have been hearing at school, which started around kindergarten. These questions go beyond, "where do babies come from." Often, my children have told me that some one at school was talking about oral, anal, and other detailed information. I'm in complete shock. These children have to be hearing or learning about this from somewhere and in my book, it's not ok.

My children are very sheltered, which many parents don't always agree with. But, at the same time, my children know a little bit about the birds and the bees, but not the details. Such as it's something parents do to create a child. They don't know what goes where or anything like that. However, I fear the next step in the discussion is not far behind because of what they are being exposed to by their peers.

Personally, I feel it's great to educate your children and answer their questions openly, but it's not ok for 5, 6, and 7 year olds to know the full details. And, if they do, you should have a clear discussion with your children that this isn't something they go to school and broadcast.

Our children are exposed to so much as it is with the media. Everything has become sexualized. Elementary school should be a place where they can relax and simply be kids-- not be thinking about adult situations or relationships. We can't control what goes on in the media; however, maybe if parents tried to hang on to their child's innocence a little longer, children wouldn't be forced to have to grow up so quickly like they do nowadays.

I know many will disagree and many will agree with me, and that's ok. But, what do you think? When is it too young to begin talking to your kids about the birds and the bees?


  1. I absolutely agree Alyssa, and that's pretty much what I've done with mine (the youngest are 7 and 3). The 7 year old knows that parents make babies, but she doesn't know the details. Once she pressed me with, but how? and I told her that adults can give each other a special kind of hug to make babies. That was enough for her at this tender age, and she hasn't pressed me for more details yet. I don't think I'll supply all the details until the monthlies start (that's going to take some 'splaining!) :)

    1. Lol I feel you there. When puberty starts to show it's ugly head, I will discuss how the body changes and whatnot. But, as far as details, that can wait well past elementary. My biggest problem, is the fact kids openly talk about it at school at such a young age. If you want to talk with your kids early about it, that's fine. That's your right. However, you should tell your children that's it's not something they go to school and tell everyone.