Thursday, March 6, 2014

Going to a Restaurant as a Large Family

Going to a restaurant as a large family is far different than going as an averaged-sized family. Most people ignore you, while others stare, sometimes with their jaw hanging from their face. And, then every so often, you get people who truly put the icing on the cake with comments and rude remark.

When you visit a restaurant as a large family, one of two things usually happens-- 1. you're immediately led the the table in the very back corner or 2. After arguing and debating with the hostess that there just aren't any tables big enough, you're finally led to the back where they had to push two tables together.

As soon as you sit down, you'll often see the clear disappointment and annoyance that she now has to wait a table full of kids and clearly, there's going to be a huge mess. We even had a waitress tell us before that she was going to seat us on the tile because it was easier to clean. Another, said, "I'll leave the broom right here for you." Don't get me wrong, yes, I can see a lot of children being loud and making messes, but not mine.

As you're eating your meal, you'll notice all of the eyes from other tables staring back at you. The waitress can usually never be found, but then your meal comes to an end. We've had a number of things happen, but it's almost always positive. We've had fellow restaurant customers come up and tell us before that they were not looking forward to sitting next to "so many kids." but our family was so quite and they hardly noticed "all of those children." We also had one lady tell us that she was going to leave when she saw us coming because she wanted a relaxing breakfast, but was very surprised how well behaved my children were.

Then, there's that waitress who gave us an attitude for half of the meal. Most just can't seem to get over the fact there are no spills or any messes on the floor. Who knew the secret to a waitress's happiness was no french fries on the floor?

A time or two, we've even received discounts due to the children not tearing the walls down. Don't get me wrong, I love to hear compliments about my children because they are pretty darn awesome, but I hate that we are instantly labeled and judged as soon as we walk in.

People just assume with that many kids that there's going to be a lot of noise, messes and chaos. Sure, maybe at home, but I think I've done a pretty good job of teaching my children how to behave in public. I'm often told all 4 of my kids combined behave better than a lot of people with 1 or 2 children, so don't be so quick to judge. Just because you may have had a poor experience with a large family in the past doesn't mean you should instantly label and judge all families.

What are some of the things you've noticed about going to a restaurant as a large family? Do you get the death stares too?

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